Everyone here has an obligation to communicate their expectations and extend the inclusive sense of community. If someone in the pool with you asks you to speak more softly, that is the person directly impacted by your behavior. OLT has deliberately avoided a long list of specific rules and regulations; we don't want to be that kind of place and we don't enjoy the role of enforcer. Simply stated, the main rule is the good old Golden Rule, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." There are instances that have been brought to our attention in which someone has tried to make polite requests of others and been told that it is none of their business. We are all together in this and what happens around me is my business. The best solutions are those that involve people communicating respectfully and working out the conflicts quickly and at the moment. Most of the confrontations involve noise level, smoke, pets, and alcohol. A few are more serious trespasses into another person's physical space through unwanted advances and boundary crossing. OLT staff responds quickly when people come to us to communicate their discomfort. Please tell us in the moment rather than waiting for a few days to go by to let us know there was a problem. In a social utopia, the behaviors and mis-steps would be self-regulated; folks simply let their affronts be known and the ones doing that affronting work it out with those whose experience is disrupted. Are we reasonable people and half-way decent human beings? Is this too much to ask?